Self-love Challenge: Perseverance Recap

Perseverance: noun  per·se·ver·ance  \ˌpər-sə-ˈvir-ən(t)s\
  •  continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition :  the action or condition or an instance of persevering :  steadfastness

The final week of the self-love challenge was centered on perseverance. So, Genesis and I just kept going. We continued on our journey of unconditional, unapologetic self-love.

The theme of the week was fitting, as I had an awful week. I tried my absolute hardest not to revert to the terrible mindset I once (or twice) had about my life. I tried not to let if affect my self-concept. From health issues to my lackluster love life, I wasn’t feeling the self-love at all; but I did continue with my affirmations. I also amped up the prayers. After all, building discipline, balance, and confidence would have been futile without perseverance. Keeping the momentum is vital to achieving long-term results, beyond the self-love challenge.

For me, the biggest roadblock to perseverance was the failure to exercise the control that I actually had this past week. I have a tendency to dwell on negative circumstances, just letting things happen to me, so much so, that I tend to forget what I can do to make things better for myself. Childish AF, I know. It’s so bad that I will literally just lay in my bed for hours and attempt to think myself out of a funk.

Luckily, a friend checked me. She told me that I need to “stop being a passenger in my own life.” It hit me hard, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense.

I needed to take the wheel; I needed to take control of my actions and my attitude, both of which exist outside the realm of circumstance. Regardless of life’s petty jabs and punches that literally exist to throw us off balance and test our resiliency, we’ve got to remain strong. We can’t let BS win, because, if we do, we truly don’t love ourselves as much as we should. We’ve got to realize that most things that happen are beyond our control. Yet, we have complete control over our response to such circumstances.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. – Charles R. Swindoll

So, I took my friend’s advice as I climbed out of the dark pit I fell in and kept going. I persevered through the obstacles, and enjoyed my Memorial Day weekend, despite life’s recent events. Twas lit. To sum it up: hikes, brews, and new boos in the City of Angels.